Did you know the average adult makes roughly 35,000 decisions per day? At first I didn’t believe these findings, so I challenged myself to keep track of what decisions I make in a day. It was a lot. LOL
Making decisions starts the moment you wake up. Do I get up on my first or second alarm? Do I need to wash my hair today, or just rinse in the shower? Should I brush my teeth? What do I want for breakfast? Do I have time to stretch or do a 15 minute yoga flow? You get the picture.
Thank goodness most of these are automatic habits that we’ve put in place so that we don’t need to wake up with a list of questions to decide on first thing, but they’re still decisions our minds need to make.
Then there are the bigger decisions that are a bit more pressing. Do I need to complete this project today, or can it wait until tomorrow? Is there a consequence if I wait? How big is that consequence? What else is a priority that I need to complete today? Should I apply for that promotion? How worth it would it be? What if I finally just changed careers and started something new? The list goes on.
These decisions have much higher stakes in our minds and in our lives, and things start to get a little fuzzy when the question pops into our minds “what’s the right thing to do here?”
I recently started car shopping for a new SUV. Having only had car payments previously, the thought of having a higher SUV payment was rather daunting, making this decision even harder. The question “what’s the right SUV to pick for the payment?” has spun in my mind almost constantly for a month now.
What’s the answer? The right decision is the decision I make. That’s it. No more spinning. No more drama. It’s that simple.
Every decision you make contributes to the story of your life. It’s up to your perspective on whether those decisions have made for a good or bad story.
I could choose a Toyota thinking it was the right thing to do, and three months later be taking it in for a repair. I could choose to think going with the Toyota was the wrong thing to do, or I can be thankful the cost of the repair wasn’t any higher.
It may be easier said than done to just trust yourself that the decision you make is the “right” one, but you’ll notice a shift in your emotions and mindset once it’s made.
When I decided no matter which SUV I chose, it would be the right one – I immediately felt a sense of relief and pressure. I still ask the question “what’s the right SUV to pick for the payment”, but I answer it with much more confidence and trust in myself.
The right decision is to make a decision and have your own back on the decision that was made. Not just on the day it was made, but three, six, nine months down the road too.
How do you know if taking the promotion is the right thing to do? You take it, and see what all you can learn from it. If you think three months into it that it was the wrong decision, you’re turning your back on yourself. Remember why it was/is right.
How do you know if you’re marrying the right person? You trust yourself in the decision. If the decision is to marry them, you do it. If you divorce 15 years later, that doesn’t mean they were the wrong person to marry. They were still the right person for many reasons and for many years.
It’s all about your perspective, my friends. You choose how you want to view your decisions, just like you choose what decisions to make in the first place.
What’s the next decision you need to make? Trust yourself in the process. You’ve got this.